_4_ Planning and Strategy: did I have a strategy; was my walkaway right; did I estimate the other’s well? Estimated others too high.
_4__Did I establish my own priorities and potential trade-offs
_5__First approach: were we win-win, positive; try to establish rapport; did I deal with first offers effectively?
_4_How well did I develop a plan for managing the process of negotiation?
_4__Did I actively shape the agenda and manage the process to my advantage?
_4__How well did I try understand the other person:
_4__Exploring Interests: did I communicate my interests;
_5__Persuasion: How well did I persuade the other side about my legitimate needs and limits and the value of what I offered
_4__The Other's Interests did I find out the other side's real interests and constraints
_4__Creating Value (integrative or win-win) vs Claiming Value (distributive or win-lose)
_4__Options: Did we explore "expand the pie" options: did we try to find ways of meeting each party’s needs
_4__Inquiry vs. advocacy: did I ask (inquiry) a lot of questions, or just advocate my position. Did a fair amount of both. More towards asking questions.
_2__Alternatives: Was I clear on my BATNA; was I clear about what happens if there is no agreement
_4__Legitimacy: was the agreement considered fair by some external benchmark
_5__Commitments: did the agreement avoid problems in the future; were any “strings left untied?”
_5__Communication: did we practice effective two way communication…did we listen…did we rephrase…
_5__Focus on the problem, not the person: did we avoid attacking or threatening the other person
_5__Relationship: did we deal well with differences; is our relationship better off now than before
_5__Psychological factors: did outside factors (eg. emotions) affect the outcome (their efforts or ours)
_4__Did we reach an outcome that maximized potential mutual gains; did we come close to the "Pareto Frontier?"
The key to success in this negotiation was conversation regarding the situation surrounding the Appletons' move. By talking about the situation I was able to learn that there was already a buyer for the Appleton home and the fact that the Appletons were approaching the Bakers meant that there was some desperation. Through discussion I was also able to get a sense of body language and tone (although I already knew my opponent) and how these changed throughout the negotiation. I also was able to gain trust and paint a picture that the Bakers didn't have much to offer as a teacher and bookkeeper, but were friendly neighbors who did had an interest in the plot, and were trying to make a fair offer. I convinced my opponent that I had limited flexibility beyond my initial offer -- only moving $1000. On the whole I think that I did a good job with the exception of setting my initial offer too high. I'm not sure how I would combat this. I think by making the initial offer I was able to get a good sense for where I stood, but this was a little too late. On the otherhand, with the high walkaway, a high initial offer by the Appletons may have thrown me off as well.